How We Met — the night your story starts. Birmingham.

The night

A night out. Not an app.

You've done the swiping. The three days of chat that goes nowhere. The date with someone two stone different from their photos. This is the opposite: one good night in a real room, where the only thing anyone's looking at is each other.

Everyone is single.

Actually single

Not "it's complicated". Every guest is checked by a real person before the night. No profile, no entry — and photos are matched on the door.

Everyone is your age.

Age guide: 32–45

No 23-year-olds, no chancers. A room built for people who are done wasting evenings and know what they're looking for.

Everyone said yes.

There to meet someone

Nobody's there by accident, dragged along, or "just seeing what it is". Every person in the room chose to be met. That changes everything.

No rotating tables. No bell. No scorecards. No icebreaker bingo. Just a proper bar, proper drinks, and 1,000 single people your age.

The format

How the night works

Four steps. Two of them are what make this night unlike anything else you've been to.

Make your profile

Two real photos — a selfie and one with your mates, so everyone knows you look like you. What you do, what you're into. Your first name stays hidden. Rather not be seen at all? You can hide it completely.

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See who's coming

Ticket bought, profile done, check passed — then the room unlocks. Browse the room before the night, so you walk in already knowing who you want to talk to. Nobody browses without being in it themselves.

Wear your number

On the night, everyone wears a number — that's all you are until you say hello. Talk to whoever you like. The night is the point: real drinks, real laughs, real chemistry you can't get through a screen.

The morning after

Kept noticing №112 but never got over there? Afterwards, request to talk to any number. If they felt it too, we connect you. If they didn't — no one ever knows you asked.

For the shy ones

Don't want to be browsed?

Hide your profile. You can still come, still browse everyone else, still wear a number on the night. Nobody sees you online — they meet you in the room, the old-fashioned way. And your number still works afterwards, so the person you talked to all night can still find you.

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Profile hidden

Still on the list. Still №212 on the night. Just not browsable.

№ 74 & № 91

Matched off the link-up list three weeks out. In a group chat by that evening. Shared a taxi in — walked in like they'd known each other for years.

No single mates left?

Come alone. Arrive with a friend.

Everyone your age has the same problem: the single friends ran out years ago, and nobody wants to walk in solo. So join the link-up list. We'll pair you with someone else coming alone — girls with girls, blokes with blokes — who looks like you'd actually get on. Happy with your match? Swap details and get talking before the night — so you don't just meet outside, you go together. Share the taxi, split the nerves. Worst case, you leave with a new mate. Best case, you're both telling the same story at each other's weddings.

The morning after

The night ends. The story doesn't.

Every other night out ends the same way: you leave, and whoever you didn't talk to is gone forever. Not this one. Everyone in that room stays reachable — by number — after the lights come up.

This is the part that takes the pressure off the night itself. You don't have to be brave at 10pm. You can be brave at 9 the next morning, with a cup of tea.

On the way home

The numbers stay with you

№112 laughed at your joke and then the crowd moved. №283 you clocked across the room all night and never got over there. Normally that's the end of it. Here, it's the start.

Next morning

Requests open

Go through the room again and request to talk to any number you noticed. Takes ten seconds a time. Nobody sees you do it — not them, not anyone.

If they say yes

Names unlock

Both said yes? Now — finally — you get each other's names, and we put you in touch. The conversation picks up exactly where the night left off. Or starts the one you never had.

If they don't

Nothing happens

No notification. No "declined". No awkward moment in the Tesco queue. Requests only ever come to light when the answer is yes — so there is nothing to lose by asking.

Be first in

Reserve your spot before we announce it

Age guide 32–45 500 women · 500 men

Free to reserve — no payment, no profile yet. Tickets are balanced and capped: equal men and women, and when one side fills, the other closes. Reserving now puts you at the front of the queue.

We'll only email you about the night. Unsubscribe any time.

Fair questions

Straight answers

"Is it going to be all blokes, or half empty?"

Tickets are balanced and capped — equal men and women. When one side sells out, the other side closes too. Nobody walks into a lopsided room.

"Is it safe?"

Every guest is checked by a real person, photos are matched on the door, and your name is never shown. Profiles aren't public either — nobody sees who's going until they've paid, completed their own profile and passed the check. And afterwards, nobody can contact you unless you accept their request — you're anonymous until you decide not to be.

"What if I ask to talk to №112 and they're not interested?"

Then nothing happens. Requests are private — they only come to light when both sides say yes. Nobody ever finds out you asked. There is no way to be publicly knocked back.

"I'd be coming on my own."

So is most of the room — that's rather the point. But if walking in solo is the bit that puts you off, join the link-up list: we'll pair you with someone else coming alone, you swap details, chat before the night, and go together. Got a single mate? Bring them — their side of the room will thank you.

"1,000 people? I'll be lost in the crowd."

You won't be working the room — you'll arrive with a shortlist of three or four numbers already in your head, and a few people will have you in theirs. The crowd is just the atmosphere.

"What if I see someone I know?"

They can't search for you — names are hidden, and nobody can even see the guest list without a paid ticket, a completed profile and a passed check of their own. No lurkers, no window-shoppers. And if that's still too much, hide your profile completely and just come along.

"So when actually is it?"

Date and venue get announced together, soon — and reservers hear it first, with first dibs on tickets before anyone else. That's the whole point of reserving now: when the doors open on ticket sales, you're already at the front.

"How much does it cost?"

Reserving is free and commits you to nothing. Ticket price comes with the first night's announcement — think a good night out, not a subscription. One night, not another app charging you monthly to stay single.

"I'm just outside the ages. Can I still come?"

The first night is built for 32–45 — the ads, the checks and the tickets all aim there, because a room where everyone's a match is why this works. Just outside? Reserve anyway and pick "just outside" — if enough of you do, your night is next.